Being a DARK SKINNED is not a PROBLEM

How often do people judge each other based on colour of skin?

            We live in a society where we tend to start judging people at a very young age. We mock dark people and fat people and differently-abled people – often involuntarily. This is because we grow up in a culture which is inherently ableist and sexist – even if it is in the smallest of ways. Regardless, this habit of casual sexism and becomes more involuntary and aggressive as we grow up. And while girls are more prone to these issues, it happens to everyone and affects us all.

I am not really sure on how I should describe the subject of this matter, but it’s very hurting for me and those in my shoes. I really hope that you can write about this and teach the educated fools out there.

It's OK. I won't say it feels great but yeah it's really okay to be in this country with a dark skin. The reason why I feel so is because I've no complaints about my skin tone. I feel being dusky has its own beauty and grace associated with it.

Talking about the prevailing mentality in the society, it doesn't affect me anymore. After all they are mere people and it's their business to engage in petty gossips. They never spare anyone.

And I've great parents and siblings who never made me feel that there's something wrong with me as I'm not fair. I've got great friends as well.

Sometimes, it makes me feel terrible and cracks me up at the same time when I see the ad commercials. A girl without applying fair and lovely gets rejected and the same girl after its application astonishes everyone so much so that the interviewer stands up in awe to praise her glowing face. It's SICK and STUPID.

I urge every girl out there who is dark or dusky to not be insecure about your complexion. Instead, love and accept yourself for who you are. Also accept the fact that if people look down upon you because of your skin tone, then they are mere idiots and thinking about them is such a waste of thoughts.

How can we amend this trend of body skin colour?

It’s a very inherent problem, indoctrinated into us from our childhood days. Most of the time, it’s involuntary. Which makes it all the more difficult to combat. Judging people based on their looks is generally considered as wrong, but it doesn’t stop us from widely practicing it. The solution to this is, I think, a combination of time and proper education. We need to also refrain from being influenced by certain sections of society. It hurts all of us, men and women.

Anything to say in conclusion?

Judging people is something human beings have always done, and will always do. I just think it’s better if we judge each other by our actions rather than our physical appearances. We are so much more than our skin tone and bodies.            

To all dark skinned girls out there, you are worth so much more than your skin colour and if anyone comments on you, don’t believe them. Their small mindedness is not your fault. If anyone downgrades your deliciously chocolate colour, tell them,”Then it’s your problem, not mine,” and strut away, head held high, but thing with confidence Feel sorry for those who failed to see you as the awesome dark skinned woman , both inside and out. It is your life so marry a man who loves you for all your virtues and convictions and character, not one who belive on your skin tone.

LAKSHMI HANNE